4 Tips On How To Don't Worry And Become Happy
"Don't worry be happy" is a conscious choice only YOU can make.
You may be concerned once in a while about something but that is just part of life. It becomes a real issue if you can only think about your problems or even worse if your troubles keep you up at night. Worry can become this all consuming monster, that leave little room for sunshine and possibilities.What is even more scary; worry transforms you from a wonderful being to a fearful about everything version of yourself and in the way worry does that is:
Worry clutters our thoughts: it takes the clarity out of our thinking and it makes us lose focus.
Worry transfers positive thoughts into negative thoughts: To many negative thoughts creates anxiety, and anxiety consumes your mind to a point you can't think clearly and it alternate your perspective of life.
Worry is a bad advisor: Don't trust your mind when you are in the apprehension mode, because you can't be clear and focused when you are anxious. Therefore don't take life changing decisions when you are in this mindset.
Worry holds you hostage and stuck in one place: Your brain goes in circles and doesn't find and opening to get out of that frame of mind.
It holds you back at moving forward in life.If you catch yourself worrying too much and want to change that, than these next 4 tips will help you to get from worry to happy.
Start self-care: Make time for some "you" time, take the pressure off, of thinking aka believing you have to be superwoman or superman. You work way better, faster and more efficient with a de-cluttered brain. So spent some time a day on: meditation, walks in nature, yoga or other activities that relaxes you.
Focus on the things you have control over: Everyday you get bombarded with information you haven't asked for and where you have no control over, take politics and advertisement ads as an example. But that information has a huge influence on your life; politics on your healthcare and education and advertisements on the products you buy. By minimizing your exposure to the outlets that inform you about things you have no control over, you will discover the areas in your life you are in control in. By taking control of the things you can change, you will find your anxiety level will go down.
Find gratitude: Open your eyes and perspectives and find moments, people, situations, things or circumstances you can be grateful for. Gratitude is the gateway to happiness, it steers you to inner peace, so find 3 things a day you can be grateful for. This exercise alone can change your life.
Mind map:If you need something concrete to work with than do a mind-map. Take a big piece of paper, write your worry/problem in the middle and circle it. Any thoughts you have around that problem write it down and connect the thought and the worry with a line. After a while you find your paper looks like a spider and you will see a patron forming. This bring clarity into your thoughts and can give you the answer to your problem.
Just hearing the words "you are worrying too much" may sound innocent, but they have a HUGE impact on your life. So take control of YOUR life and make the CHOICE of dealing with your problems as soon as you can so that you don't have to spent energy on worrying and losing sleep. You are so worth it, let your inner beauty come out and make the world your playground.
More information on being in control of your life and want to come out and play ?, Contact Ellen Nyland Certified Life-Coach and author of the book "Life is Great Even When it Sucks" and together we get you from worrier to Warrior.