4 Steps To Clear Out Your Inner Crap

The lighter you travel in life, the more you can enjoy the journey.

In life you have all kind of experiences, some are great and there are some who will throw you of kilter. When that happens and you were hurt deeply, it is then understandable that you want to forget that episode. But if you don't deal with the emotions and feeling you have around the hurt you will carry it with you, until you deal with it.

See, it works like this: You have memories from every stage of your life. You share the funny or cute stories from your childhood at a party or at a friend's night out. But how do you share the painful memories you collected over the years? Do you share them with anybody? Are you even willing to look at them or are you pretending they are not there?

The danger of ignoring them is that you become tangled up in your own past and your demons become bigger and more scary as the time goes on. Now you are creating your own private hell with no way out. FYI, demons don't stay nicely in a box and are only dangerous in certain situations or conversations , they influence every aspect of your life.

Think about it, if you have unresolved issues with your parents ; how open will and can you be with a partner? If you experienced abuse in any shape of form; how much do you trust an act of kindness? If you where bullied; how does that effect your friendships.

Visualize all those hurtful and negative emotions in a bag-pack . This bag-pack you carry with you every day and everywhere you go, you can't put it down. You have a choice to look and deal with all those unresolved issues; but keep the following tips in mind.

1. Be gentle with yourself: Your demons are scary otherwise it wouldn't bother you as much. So, take your time and don't beat yourself up if the demons don't disappear as quickly as you want, keep shinning light on them from different angles and they will eventually resolve.

2. Forgive yourself and others: Forgiving is letting go, it is refusing to carry the burden with you in the bag-pack. It is given yourself the gift of traveling light and enjoying your life.

3. Find help: Looking in the bag-pack and facing your demons can be daunting but with the help of a life- coach or therapist is it a safe journey.

4. Celebrate slaying your demon: You have done incredible work, you have shown your courage and determination, that is worth a reward; how you reward yourself is up to you as long as you do, because it keeps the courage going to tackle the next scary monster.

The funny thing is, when you look and deal with your inner monsters, you will find that life becomes more colourful, the smells more profound, and food taste better. You are not bogged down with the painful past you are alive and celebrating everything that life has to offer. Your relationships become more open and meaningful just because you don't have to guard that painful part of yourself.

Give yourself the gift of life and find the courage and resources to dive into your bag-pack and walk away with only a empty bag, you are soooo worth it.

Need help with looking into your bag-pack ? Ellen Nyland is a Certified Life Coach and author of the book "Life Is Great Even When It Sucks" , and her passion is the help clients lighten their load. Contact Ellen here.