4 Reasons Why We Need To STOP Comparing Your Self With Others
Comparing our self to others, is like comparing apples and bananas; they both may be fruit but are two different things.
When we compare ourselves to others, it seems that we always get the short end of the stick. Others are smarter, richer, more beautiful or successful then us. Open a magazine, surf the web and watching TV, and our suspicions are confirmed. There is a lot of improvement to be made, we conclude that we need to make a lot of changes before we are perfect and fit "The Mold."
GOOD NEWS: You are already perfect and unique, there is no one like you. This includes the whole you, your ripples, weight, smarts, sense of humor, age, career and everything else that makes you, you. We have to ask our self: why do we compare our self? We are no cars where millions of the same brand and model are produced. Or no condo in a sky scraper. Not even mass produced clothing.
But in the meantime we treat our lives in the same category. STOP that and here are 4 main reasons why:
We never get to see the whole picture: We may be look at our neighbours with an envy eye when we see a new car in the carport, and a new pool in the yard, and wish you could do the same. However you don't know how much they are maybe in depth, maybe collectors are calling, you don't know. We see the global trotters flying all over the world, but we don't notice how much they miss home and miss birthday's and other important family occasions. We see celebrities making lots of money and have material wealth, but we overlook their mental state. We don't know where others went through, what their life story is , we only see what THEY want you to see. The same as we show others what we want them to see.
We pick unrealistic scenario's to compare with: When we start and new career, we see ourselves as the CEO, or when we diet we already lost 50 pounds, or when we just got married, we see ourselves living in a mansion and decorated by interior designers. All because that is what the media let you believe is what everybody else is doing.
We set our self up for failure: With the unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves, our efforts are doomed to fail. With everybody showing their best side, it is easy to ignore the reality. FYI nobody just becomes a GEO, lose 50 pounds or lives in a mansion by age 23; we have to work for our achievements.
Gives us a negative attitude: When we keep feeling inferior, our self worth becomes very low and it becomes very difficult to maintain a positive attitude towards life and life challenges. Depression is a real possibility.
Embrace your uniqueness, build on your strength and strengthen your weakness. We are perfect in the way we are. If you want to compare; then compare yourself with who YOU where a day, month or 5 years ago THAT is the only real comparison you can make. This way you push yourself to become the best version of yourself.
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