6 Things You Need To Know On How To Pick Up The Pieces After A Break- Up

Moving on and taking a risk on love again after a heartbreak can feel like mission impossible.

After a heartbreak occurs we can become so fearful of love that we shut it out completely. Which is understandable for a while, but as time goes on we need to pick up the pieces of our lives and find happiness again.

Putting ourselves out there again and running into the possibility of: getting turned down, making a mistake, losing a friendship, finding our self getting judged or getting the feeling of not being good enough. Are all scary things. We may ask our self is it all worth the risk? Is it worth going through all the obstacles with no guarantee of a happy ending?

There are moment in life the answer will be NO, but when time passes the longing for a companion, lover and friend will become stronger. The next six things are things you can do to get over a heartbreak, and to get ready and prepare for a new start. How scary that may sound at the moment.

1. Give yourself the time to grieve the relationship: You lost someone who was important to you, acknowledge that and don't pretend it never happened. If you need to wallow for a bit then do that, just watch out you don't drown in it, see the next 5 steps. Grieving is a natural method of saying goodbye to something we lost, your relationship was important to you otherwise you wouldn't end up with heartbreak but with relieve, take your time.

2. Be honest, and find out what was your part in the break-up: It is always easy to blame the other, but by taking responsibility of your contribution in the breakup; you examine the mistakes you made and you can learn from them. Action is reaction. When you know what went wrong you can prevent the same mistake happening in the next relationship.

3. Block every contact with your ex that includes the social media part: By deleting every contact option you make a clear break, and the temptation to slip and sent a messages. You don't know what he/she is saying on facebook about you or what they are up to in the weekends. Out of sight will become; out of mind.

4. Say yes to new things that come your way: Step out and explore what the world has to offer on things you haven't done yet. This creates the opportunity to establish a new fun routine and makes the "out of sight" theory into a practice.

5. Breakdown the risk you want to take into small steps that are less scary: If jumping of a 30 feet cliff is too much for you; then start with the high board of a pool, and work your height up from there. The trick is to do SOMETHING, it doesn't matter what, or how small.

6. Make fun, be playful, laugh: Life becomes easier when we can play and have fun. Find your fun and playfulness and take it out for a spin. Laughter is the best medicine for heartbreak.

Do the best you can and some days that is easier to do then others, but trust that you are strong enough to get through this. People around you may help you, but ultimately it is you who as to do it. Good Luck.