The Light After The Darkness Of Death
"Everything that lives, will die" is something my mom always said. On February 28th she had to let go of her partner of 58 years and my dad. She found the courage to help dress dad for the last time and she picked a beautiful spot on the cemetery as the last resting place for dad and herself. Her strength is an inspiration and example of letting go gracefully, of something so final as death.
Death marks a point of no return, it shakes up our "normal" and it force us to find a new way; this is often accompanied with feelings of loss and grief. The only association with death we make is the loss of a loved one, but death can also mean the end of different aspects of life. Changes that bring our lives in a different directions, with a point of no return. Death can also be an liberation, a possibility of creating a new beginning. Especially death of a crippling situation we are in, we can think of:
The death of a relationship: Out of insecurities we can stay in a relationship that is unhealthy, and out of fear we stay in it. But when the relationship is over and we find the courage to put it behind us we create a space where we can start new and find a love that is worthy of our time and energy.
The death of a addiction: Overcoming an addiction is a great milestone and more difficult than many people realize. So when you kill an addiction, be proud and embrace your new free life.
The death of a dead end job: We spent a lot of our time in the working environment and if we have a job that we hate and resent it effects our health. Not one job or even career is worth risking our health, unless you do it out of love.
The death of an illness: The moment we overcome an illness, we can feel victorious; we saw the mountain and we conquered it. Then death feels like a victory instead of a loss.
" Everything that lives, will die" is true for every aspect of life, it counts for the physical form but also for the metaphorical form. On everything comes an end, the good, the bad and the ugly; the sun will come up after the night is over. Embrace what life gives you, and find the beauty in the death of an event. When you lose a love one this can be more challenging, maybe if we step into the life of that love one we come to the conclusion that death was the best solution.
Life is a mystery and some deaths will always seem useless, and questions will remain; this is the place we draw on faith and hope for the future. Remember the deaths you conquered and celebrated life; that is how you build faith and hope.
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