STICKING OUR HEAD ON THE SAND IS NOT HELPFUL
Sticking our head in the sand is NOT helpful!!
Dan is an energetic, adventures 30 year old small business owner in rural Canada. His business toke of from the start, but his insecurities got sometimes the best of him. His Problem: due to his problematic relationship he had with his father , and the crippling perspectives taught by his father that he toke on as truth, he had trouble in trusting his ability to succeed . His solution: through coaching he discovered his connection to his I Am Status and found his inner strength, and wisdom. Now he listen to his inner guides and his personal and business life is more fulfilled and balanced than ever before.
To a certain degree we all have insecurities, fears that rule our lives by make us stay in our comfort zone. By changing our perspective we can experience emotions as guilt, blame and shame. We are taught to be "strong, dependable, real men don't cry and don't show the emotions you feel" ; which in itself are not bad trades. However we forgot on HOW that impacts daily life. When you never learned how to cope with feelings and that acknowledge them is the best way of dealing with them; you automatic develop a denial coping mechanism. Like:
Being defensive
Being the victim
Give the silent treatment
Start acting out- drinking, drugs, and violent.
Emotional eating
What we need to realize is that by denying our feelings and sticking our head in the sand we only create suffering for ourselves. Emotions are our fuel; in a big tank it is fine but the the more you compress it the more combustion it causes. Emotions, especially, feelings of grieve, guilt, shame, unworthiness are right up there in the motor and ready to explode and blow you up. When we acknowledge and transform them it then becomes just fuel in the tank; useful as a learning tool to move on in life without the combustion.
What Dan did was: first he made a link between his fathers and his own perspective on life. Then he dove into his own combustive motor, and faced his feelings of failure and anger. This was NOT an easy task; pain, uncertainty and frustration where all worth the reward of inner peace and freedom. Now Dan learned that it pays off to deal with ALL the emotions that life throws at you, and that being connected to his I Am Status keeps him in balance.
What damage do you see around you that unacknowledged emotions create?
